Are we taking the time to meditate?

These are the feet of my two year old. Little feet learning to create ripples in the puddle. Little feet learning to create footprints …


Every night, right around 11:00 p.m. I sneak into my 7 month old daughter’s room to give her a bottle. I pick her up. She resists very slightly at first but quickly snuggles up to me. She settles down with her bottle and drinks at a quiet steady pace. The next 5 minutes. Quiet reflection. Intense love. An amazing warmth. I kiss her on her forehead. Once. Maybe twice. Sometimes she will sigh. A baby sigh.

Every night. Every single night. This is my meditation. And I would not trade it for the world.


Quiet house. I am still reflecting on the simple joys of life as I sit down with my laptop. I get lost in cyberspace very swiftly.

A few minutes later, I get a calendar reminder:

I had a small argument with my husband tonight. I did not think too much of it. I was irritated though.  But he had taken the time to meditate. He perhaps reflected on how insignificant that argument was in the larger scheme of things … and then decided to do something about it.

I was touched. I forced myself to “meditate”. Reflect on all the wonderful things our relationship has offered over the years. All the good times. And how we have grown … as individuals, friends and a couple.

And then I was interrupted by this:

(What a perfect reward I got for having taken the time to meditate :))


I wonder what I would have done if my husband did not “nudge” me as he did. Would I have gone to bed and  woken up to our argument …encouraging the silly argument to take a life of its own? Perhaps yes.

Relationships, experiences, careers. The greater the rewards, the harder they challenge us.  And when they do, let us take a few minutes to meditate. Refocus. Enjoy some memories and celebrate some accomplishments. Most often, those annoying challenges just go away. And if they do not go away, they just get small. Really small.

Isn’t is amazing what a little change in perspective can do ?

  • Pink Ink

    Hi! Found you through Dave Fowler.:-). Meditating…just exactly what I need right now. It seems I just DO anymore. Thanks for the reminder. And btw, what a sweet episode with your husband :-)

    I used to have little ones, too. Now they are 12, 10 and 8, and I am still stay at home but at a different stage in life. Enjoy the tears and laughter :-)

    Pink Inks last blog post..Spull Chek

  • Barbara Swafford

    Hi Maya,

    I don’t meditate, but do realize by changing our perspective of things, we can often change the results.

    P.S. That’s a cute picture of your child’s little feet in the puddle.

    Barbara Swaffords last blog post..Sometimes Thank You Is Not Enough

  • Vered – MomGrind

    Hi Maya,

    First I wanted to thank you for visiting Suzie’s blog. You are amazing.

    As far as meditation goes, whether in the formal sense or in the sense of stopping to think about the big picture, about the important things – I don’t do it enough. Thank you for the reminder. What a beautiful post.

    Vered – MomGrinds last blog post..Hospitalized with Meningitis

  • Maya

    Hi PinkInk –
    Thanks for visiting. Yes, I am trying to make the most of the tears and the laughter. It was a day for the shots at the doctor’s office – so I had more tears today than laughter :)

    Hi Barbara –
    I do not really meditate in the literal sense of the word …but I am learning to take the time to reflect on life. I have to remind myself constantly. Those feet in the puddle – yes, they are the most adorable :). Thank you!

    Hi Vered –
    Thank you for coming by and leaving a note regarding my post. When I write something with personal elements in there, I wonder if anyone else can really relate to it…which is why your feedback meant a lot to me. Please do keep us in the loop regarding Suzie.

  • Lance

    Meditation, quiet time, time to clear your head…however you look at it, this is important time. And I’m reminded I don’t do it enough. During the nice months (now, but ending soon) I bike to work. And I have found this to be very meditative. It works for me to be out amongst nature, and have the quiet, especially in the mornings along the bike path I take. But once the weather turns colder, I’ll stop biking. And then, this, what you wrote, will be my reminder that I need to find time during the day for this activity. And it doesn’t have to be a long time. Thank you. And, I think the way you handled your argument with your husband was a wonderful way to put the problem to rest…

    Lances last blog post..Spread Your Wings and Fly

  • Nathalie Lussier from Billionaire Woman

    I love the idea of meditating with your daughter. I have read about “yoga feeding” which sounds very familiar to your way to radiating love to your child while you feed them quietly.

    Thanks for this reminder to make time to meditate. :)

    Nathalie Lussier from Billionaire Womans last blog post..Self-Employment: One Selfish Way to Financial Independence

  • Maya

    Hi Lance,

    I think I understand what you mean. I just started to train for a marathon – a few weeks back. I love how running gives my mind a break from the day … I look forward to running everyday because it gives me much more than just the physical exercise in return.

    And thank you for visiting my blog and more importantly, sharing!

    Hi Nathalie,

    I am curious to know where you read about yoga feeding … I’d appreciate it if you can send me a link if you remember where you read it.


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  • Stacey / Create a Balance

    I have meditated many times in my life and love it! I have not, however, figured out how to make it a regular routine in my life (yet). I’ll get there one day. I just haven’t found the Ah-Ha moment that has allowed it to stick. Oh how I missed those late night feedings of holding my babes and listening to them sigh. **Bliss**

    Stacey / Create a Balances last blog post..Practicing Being Selfish = Self Nurturing

  • Davina

    Hi Maya. The account of your meditation with your daughter gave me a chill. Refocus and celebrate accomplishments, how right you are!

    I enjoy meditation, but haven’t been practicing it as much as I’d like to lately. Funny how these things come and go in our lives.

    Davinas last blog post..Free Spirit My Ass!

  • Caroline

    Wonderful blog! I need to meditate more…and this was a welcomed reminder. Thank you. I will do this today!

    Carolines last blog post..Big changes…

  • Seamus Anthony

    Hey Maya, thanks for dropping by Rebel Zen – I will return the favour and subscribe as you have a wonderful writing style. As a new Dad that tale of the nightly bottle made me go all clucky (having a kid has turned me into a big old softy for the little ‘uns) and I like the way you’ve incorporated meditation into a (albeit pleasant) chore!

    Seamus Anthonys last blog post..Snoozer and the Old Dude

  • maya

    Hi Caroline,

    Thanks for stopping by. Thank you for the feedback … I must say you take some wonderful pics!

    Hi Seamus,

    Thanks for coming by and subscribing. And yes, on complimenting my writing. Please feel free to give me any blogging related suggestions … or parenting ones for that matter :)


  • Glen Allsopp

    That is a really nice message Maya, I love the one about your daughter. And your husband seems like a very caring man :)

    Thanks for commenting at PluginID, I’ve subscribed here!


    Glen Allsopps last blog post..How I Went from Nobody to Industry Expert

  • Glen Allsopp

    P.S. Update your about page with a picture, I love connecting names with faces

    Glen Allsopps last blog post..How I Went from Nobody to Industry Expert

  • maya

    Yes, I will certainly put a pic up. Thank you for the suggestion! I also just read a number of your posts and I plan to take mre of your suggestions from your posts. It is indeed admirable how you have grown!

  • Sara at On Simplicity

    Thanks for the reminder that grounding myself is about more than me: it’s about every relationship I have. It’s a connection I haven’t really been making in my head. Plus, this made me want to go home and do something nice for my husband! :)

  • Tom –

    Wow that was so sweet of your husband!

    Tom – StandOutBlogger.coms last blog post..What To Expect From StandOutBlogger In October!

  • maya


    Welcome to my blog. Thank you for visiting and a wonderful comment!
    You have been working so hard with your situation at home, I am sure you have done plenty of wonderful things for your husband!


    Thanks for stopping by and leaving a comment. Yes, my husband is very sweet and I try to remember that on the days that I am really exhausted :)

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  • Xuan Vana

    Great post Maya. I agree, a little change in perspective can bring that change in life that we all deserve to have.